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Hello World! Hello Sober Warriors!

I've been thinking about this for some time and I've finally come to the conclusion that my experience as "sober warrior" can help other "sober curious" individuals on their journey, whether that involves simply exploring the alcohol free lifestyle ("sober curious") or completely embracing life alcohol free ("sober committed"). 

The thing is, it's a journey. So many times I read people writing that they have "failed Dry January". The F word deserves a blog all of its own ... watch this space! But like all journeys, sometimes we take a wrong turn (occasionally our choice, occasionally persuaded by others). Sometimes we just can't summon the energy to progress today. Sometimes life intervenes and all our best plans are thrown to the wind. 

It's also like babies learning to walk. No-one ever accused a baby of "failing" for falling over. We encourage them to get back up and try again. And each time they fall, they're not back to the beginning.  More importantly, the falling over actually physiologically makes their muscles and sense of balance stronger. Falling is essential to progressing. 

The alcohol free lifestyle is not like playing Snakes and Ladders when one poor throw of the dice sends you right back to the beginning. Any day when we reduce our alcohol consumption or choose not to drink at all is a good day, and good days are in the bank. Just because today was "a bad day" (also a subject for a blog all of its own) your "good days" are not eliminated like they never happened. 

So, whether you're Sober Curious or Sober Committed, Red Kites Life is for you! 

To make an appointment to see if or how I can help you on your journey click here: 

https://calendar.app.google/6B2KWLy7n7xwoPAy5

Location: 11000 Carcassonne, France

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